From the Sick Bed... Achoo!
Skipping stones and having fun with your family, does it get any better than that?!
This will be one of the shortest posts of all time on the self help blog. Why is the normally long-winded me being so uncommonly brief today?
- I have a summer cold to end all summer colds. You forget how miserable a cold makes you until you have one. When it hurts just to blink, you remember… oh, do you remember!
- Some points don’t have to be driven in. They’ll hit their mark all by themselves.
I just want to pose a question. When it comes to your loved ones – your friends and family – do you love and enjoy them for who they are or do you spend most of your time trying to make them into what you want them to be?
If we focus on the things we wish were different in the people we love, we’ll never accomplish anything positive. We’ll simply push them away. When someone feels that a particular person doesn’t accept them – that they never measure up to their expectations – they’ll begin to avoid them. Why wouldn’t they?!! They’ll simply find people who DO accept them, people who DO think they’re perfectly “good enough.”
They won’t just walk to them – they’ll run!
If you’re one of those people who seems “bent” on focusing on people’s faults or seems to automatically gravitate toward negativity and criticism – do yourself the biggest favor of your life and STOP. When you stop being known as the negative one or the number one source of criticism and doom-and-gloom, you’ll find the people you love being drawn closer to you. When every word out of your mouth isn’t negative, people will listen to you more often and more intently.
Make your goal be loving and enjoying your family and friends, NOT changing them into the image you want them to be. Ultimately remember, it’s their life and if you want to be a part of it, you’d better respect that. Be the sort of person you’d want to be around and you’re home free.
Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others. – Benjamin Franklin
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